I just came across this Brené Brown quote on vulnerability that a FB friend included in her beautiful story and it made me think of how humans are so afraid to open up and share.
On one hand, I can think of someone who would tell EVERYONE her story, whether they were interested or not. She’d shake hands with the person sitting next to her and say, “Hi, I am ____ and I have been abused” or something to that effect in the very first sentence of introduction or greeting!
And this was after writing an entire book on her story of abuse, both as a victim and a perpetrator. Obviously, she was totally identified with the experience of abuse and needed to purge herself of it.
Now for the quote itself:
“Vulnerability is the path back to each other but we’re so afraid to get on it. We want it so bad but we’re so afraid to let ourselves be seen and so afraid to see people. We would rather NOT know love than to know hurt or grief. And that’s a huge price to pay.”
The thing is that unless we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we’d be closing our hearts in fear of being hurt. We don’t have to open up to anyone and everyone, but we must support ourselves to transcend the habits and behaviour patterns of the past, where we shut down, when we think we are not safe, where we cannot recognise the truth of the situation and, in fact, are still in a reactive state to what originally wounded us.
How can we always feel safe?
How can we always feel safe? There is one sure way: when we know that we are the Divinity that we are, when we bring our Soul and Spirit Selves to our every day lives and uplift our humanness that feels afraid and vulnerable, underneath the brave face we want to show the world.
I said to someone once, “Underneath your anger is great sadness and pain” and she broke down and cried. And yet, she would continue to act out, with venom. So, unless we love ourselves through our wounded-ness, we will immaturely project our varying degrees of hatefulness to the world, without even realising that’s what we are doing. We will tell ourselves stories to cover up the lies we tell to ourselves rather than lovingly and honestly supporting ourselves to truly rise – which means a raising of our vibration to that of Love.
Know that there is a HUGE difference between human love that comes from lack and need, and Pure Love that has no lack and need. Pure Love is such immense Light that it triggers all density in people. We need to all rise up from the distorted version of love that humans hold to BEING the Pure Love that we are.
May we grow wiser and more genuinely loving, and powerfully so, every day. Remember that True Power is power over our own fear and ego-based minds, which is part of our human makeup we are all here to transcend.
I LOVE YOU. I LOVE ALL.
PEACE AND PLENTY FOR ALL.
JOY AND FREEDOM TOO.
Helen Lee xox